You’re learning to decode your own signals. You’re not outsourcing decisions to signs anymore. But sometimes…
You still feel something when you see that number, hear that lyric, or have that weirdly-timed dream.
And that’s okay.
You’re allowed to notice something and let it matter — without making it rule your life.
Why It’s Okay to Feel Meaning
Your brain is a meaning-maker. It doesn’t just notice the world — it weaves it into stories that help you feel grounded and safe.
So when you ask: “What if that was a message?”
You’re not being irrational. You’re being deeply human.
Science says: The brain’s default mode network — active when we daydream or reflect — is what helps us create personal meaning. It’s part imagination, part memory, part self-reference. Meaning is one of your brain’s oldest coping tools.
The Problem Isn’t Meaning — It’s Rigidity
It’s not harmful to see meaning in your life.
What gets sticky is when we:
- Cling to signs as truth instead of reflection
- Interpret discomfort as warning, not growth
- Get hooked on decoding rather than deciding
Meaning isn’t the issue. Attachment is.
How to Hold Meaning Loosely (But Lovingly)
You don’t need to shut down every moment of synchronicity.
You just need to relate to it differently.
Here’s how:
- Let it reflect, not direct. Ask: “What does this show me about where I am?”
- Be curious, not convinced. “What meaning feels true — but still allows choice?”
- Stay in your agency. “Even if this feels like a sign, what do I want to do with it?”
Mini Practice: Gentle Meaning
- Think of a recent moment that felt charged with “maybe-sign” energy.
- Ask:
- What meaning did I instinctively assign it?
- What could this reflect about my hopes or fears right now?
- How can I let it be inspiring, but not in charge?
Example: “I dreamed of crashing waves. Instead of assuming chaos is coming, I’m going to ask where I feel overwhelmed — and how I want to support myself.”
The Spiral Connection
In spiral work, meaning isn’t final.
It loops. It changes. It meets you where you are.
You don’t have to pick between “it meant everything” and “it meant nothing.”
Sometimes, the most grounded truth is: it meant something to me, right now — and that’s enough.
The Takeaway
You can make meaning without turning it into a mandate.
Let synchronicities be mirrors — not manuals.
When you stop grasping for certainty, meaning becomes something you shape, not something that shapes you.
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Holding meaning lightly opens the door to accepting that not everything is connected — and that’s a gift we’ll explore next.
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